When I read the word friend many faces strike my sense one by one , each of them bring a emotion with them, some bring a smile, some excitement , few bring pain , other bring hate or some even bring apathy towards them , and when I read further to the word “SHIP” associated with FRIEND it transform it into FRIENDSHIP . That is all together a different thing. Here I would compare friendship with sea. As sea is comprise of water with different depth at different places, so does friendship have friends and with each friend depth of our friendship vary. So for me it’s a sea with great depth which can never be measured.
In its purest form friendship is the biggest treasure for human soul, yes biggest because it gives us chance to open our self with a person to an extent which is not possible with your spouse and siblings or even with our parents, it gives us liberty of being our self, To be original without the mask of sanity or a plastic smile which we often wear in front of society. That’s the bright side of friendship and we all enjoy it, but everything have its flip side so does have friendship and its dark side lies in its creation.
There are two kind of relation in our life , one which are made by destiny when we were born, and had no control in deciding them, like our parents or siblings and then there is one in which we play a part, that is getting married and accepting someone for rest of our life either in arranged or love marriage. BUT then friendship have its own charm that is “ we create it with our choice without any external influence” , we just follow our heart and go into it without thinking about the complexity or future of it. So in a way it’s our own creation, which we nurse it like a infant and see it growing up as a child and keep progressing, like crawling, walking and than running when it’s in full bloom, we cherish every moment of it until it reaches its teen age. As we all know teen age can make or break someone forever, same happens with friendship.
Every relation is bound to have its share of hiccups and so does happens in friendship, when these hiccups occur within the family we adjust to it because we do not have option of breaking up with them, so we compromise. In a couple relationships we do break-up when things fall apart and cry for it for few days and then move on with another person in our life, but these things does not work in friendship.
Friendship because at first it’s a free relation and gives freedom, word compromise does not fit in and then there is nothing like breaking up and moving on with friends, because we cannot find a person with same qualities and attributes to replace the existing person in our life, thus what result is a tempered friendship just like a scratched glass, which itself is not broken but one cannot see through it as earlier. It lost it sheen with so many scratches and its charm that is transparency.
There is a saying which describes the fall of friendship very aptly that “A tiny spark can ignite a fire which can burn the whole house”. At times it’s easier to resolve big issues because they are too big to be ignored and eventually everything get sorted out, but what spoil friendship are tiny issues which gets overlooked and then block the way of friendship, and when these small ones occur frequently it create a big mess.
For example we start taking friends for granted or make silly excuses which were never required in place of truth or giving their share of attention to someone else or at times we take “ a friend in need is a friend indeed “ too seriously that we forget that those friends can be contacted without a purpose in hand . It’s not mandatory to always have a reason for talking with a friend. And when all these things happen the infant we created with so much enthusiasm dies a premature death.
So I would just say that keep in touch with your friends when you have a chance to . do not wait for a reason. Because the most excited moments we had were unplanned just like we never knew where when and how we would find our friends .
“one sides love can linger on but one sided friendship will certainly die"
